The Beauty in Letting Go

Why is it so hard to let go? Is it because we don't know where we're going to end up next? Or is it because we feel that if we let go, we'll be left with nothing? Fear, I suppose is what holds us back and the not knowing if letting go will be beneficial to us in the long run. But being honest with yourself and taking that leap of faith is better than holding onto something that is only draining you. Truth is, letting go takes strength and we are stronger than we know.

In my most recent relationships, I believe I lost myself. I found myself getting so caught up in their life and daily activities that I forgot I even had a life of my own. That's what made letting go even harder, because then it's like..what am I supposed to do with myself now?? You're filled with all the happy memories and saddened by the fact that this person is no longer in your life to make memories with. There were daily routines with each other, and now a day feels like forever. There's that little bit of hope in your heart, that they'll come running back to you. But it's that hope that prevents you from truly moving forward. You have to completely let go, learn from the lessons, and move on. Although you're fearful of letting go of such an important part of your life, have faith that something better is out there waiting for you.

Letting go shouldn't be looked at as something bad, its something beautiful. You open up new doors for yourself, and you essentially begin a new chapter in your life. The beauty in letting go is that we're free from all attachments and we're able to take everything we've learned with us and grow from it. It's uncomfortable and painful, I know, but how can you prepare yourself for what's to come if you're still hanging on to the past? If it's no longer bringing you peace, stop stressing about it and just let it go!

They say if you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it was yours and if it doesn't, it never was. Letting go of someone you love is hard, I won't even front and act like letting go of my exes were easy. Many nights I cried, some days I felt helpless, all the time I wanted answers, but there came a time when I decided to pick myself back up and let all the pain and hurt go. It's honestly an amazing feeling and you'll thank yourself later on down the line. I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders, my heart could begin to heal and make room for new love. You'll thank this person for their time and memories (in your mind, not literally lol) as you begin to enter a new season. A season without them. Regret nothing; not everyone that comes into your life is meant to stay. Some come to simply teach us lessons and prepare us for the next stage of our lives.

Sometimes we're in love with the memories instead of the actual person. You miss all the things you used to do, but do you really miss them? Don't let the fear of being alone leave you holding on to something that's been broken. Holding on to things and people from your past will prevent you from letting anyone else in. The old me didn't think it was the best idea, however, letting go was the best decision I've ever made. Every tear I shed pushed me to be a stronger woman. I believe there is beauty in letting go, you may not see it in the beginning, but you're allowing both yourself and the other person to grow. It can be difficult but I promise you it will be so rewarding. I look forward to this new season in my life (ironically the first day of fall is on Tuesday), although uncertain, I'm excited to see how it unfolds!

Virtually Yours,

SNT