God Bless These 20 Somethings

Omg, hey y'all ! It has been over a year since I've published anything on this blog! If you're a loyal reader or follower, then you know I'm in medical school full time so most of my free time is occupied. However, I try my best to find time to write on my breaks. So let's get right into it. This post is hopefully going to motivate you, inspire you, and uplift you...what I aim to achieve in all my blog posts lol. So if you didn't know, I'm in my late 20's and approaching 30 soon. When I sit back and think about all I've been through in my 20's, I feel I like I could write a book. Now since I'm not actually writing a book, I do want to share with you 5 lessons I've learned throughout my 20's. I feel like these 5 things have shaped me into the woman I am today and so why not share it!

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Failure Is Natural: I feel like this one is a given, as in most people have already learned this lesson in life. But for those who haven't....read it again! Some of the most successful people in the world have failed, not once, not twice, but multiple times just to get to where they are. In my undergraduate career, I failed organic chemistry and thought my life was over, I scored below average on my MCAT, I had to retake a semester in medical school. I've even failed at love and friendships in the past. The point is....I've failed over and over again. In the moment, it's heartbreaking, even gut-wrenching if you will, to think about where you could've been or should've been. Take some time to feel what you feel, and then get back up. Through everything I've failed at in life, I think the biggest takeaway is that you keep going, no matter what. Learn what went wrong and move forward. Because you've failed at something does not make you a failure.

Your Past Does Not Define You: Whew, this is the one!! So many people get stuck in the past, but newsflash!!!! We are in the present and so its time to live in it🙂 A lot of times, people get so caught up in their past trauma, failures, etc. and don't move on from it. I understand how it can be hard, but if it's one thing I've learned in my 20's, it's to accept that we all make mistakes and your mistakes do not define who you are as a person. Now....your past CAN define who you are if you let it. Meaning, if you want to stay in the past and not work towards moving on, healing, getting better, forgiving, etc....then yes you can say your past defines you. But if you're trying hard to grow as an individual, know that you can put the past behind you and heal/move forward. I recently started therapy and that has helped me personally in both letting go of the past and my growth as a person.

Starting Over Is Okay: This is something I'm still learning because I'm a slight perfectionist lol. There were plenty of times in my 20's where I needed to start over, not because I wanted to, but because I had to. Starting over can be extremely scary, especially if it's not planned and if you don't know what lies ahead. Relationships, career choices, big moves, new interests....these are a few reasons people start over. So imagine not knowing if you're going to find love again, if you'll land a new job, or if you'll make new friends in this new city. Starting over is not the same as failing...think of it as a new beginning. There's nothing like a fresh start in my opinion! I get a fresh start at the beginning of every new week and it's my reminder of the wonderful opportunities that lie ahead for that week.

People Will Always Have Something To Say: I'm sorry y'all, but the is actually the one!!! If you take away anything from this blog post, please take away this. No matter what you decide to do with your life, people are always going to talk. So you might as well do it anyway! Don't let the fear of other people's judgement stop you from going after whatever you want in this life. You could be doing absolutely great in life, and you'll find that one negative Nancy that will try and bring you down. You could also be doing horrible in life, I mean just bad thing after bad thing happening, and there goes negative Nancy bringing you down again. You have to silence the outside noise and do things for YOU. People will always talk, try to knock you off your path, and even discourage you...but how you respond to that noise is a test of your character. Let your haters be your biggest motivators to continue pushing through to the finish line.

Happiness Is A Choice: I love this lesson simply because, there was a time in my life where my happiness depended on who I was with at the time. I felt that I needed to be with someone to be happy and if I was alone, I simply couldn't be happy. There became a point in my 20's where I was single for a couple years and I really took the time to get to know myself and invest in me. It wasn't easy but I learned so much about myself: what I wanted out of life, what I wanted in a future partner, what I was not willing to accept in relationships/friendships, and ultimately what made me happy. Although I wasn't where I wanted to be in life (and I'm still not), I chose to be happy with all that I did have, and I still do. Gratitude is something I try to practice every day because things can always be so much worse than what they are. Life is too short to be anything to be happy and so you need to get up everyday and choose to be happy, or life will continue to pass you by.

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I honestly feel like I put my soul into this post lol. I really started thinking about all these lessons life has taught me and decided to share it. I know I'm not as consistent with posting anymore, and one day I will get back to a regular schedule but I'm thankful and of course grateful for all of you that still read my blog and are able to take away something for it. 19 year old me would be so proud of how far I've come and I hope that whatever age you are reading this, that you remember this one thing: It ain't over until God says it over✨

Virtually Yours,

SNT